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My mum has always been overprotective, but the pandemic has made her unbearable

Jul 8, 2021

DEAR DEIDRE: MY mum has always been overprotective but Covid has made her unbearable. I may as well still be in lockdown.

I’m a 26-year-old man but she won’t even let me go to the supermarket alone.

Doctors confirmed three years ago that I’m on the autistic spectrum. It’s never bothered me – I struggle with social etiquette but my friends understand.

At first my mum treated me like my brother, 24, and sister, 21. She’s 54. But during the pandemic, she’s become really unbearable.

I live alone but she rings daily, telling me to stay inside. I haven’t been allowed to visit my friends since last March.

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My mum says that her mother was really overprotective, and so I understand why she’s like this.

But it doesn’t make it any easier, seeing my siblings get their life back while I’m still stuck indoors.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your mum’s concerns come from a good place.

Encourage her to join the National Autistic Society’s online community, so she can discuss her concerns with other parents.

But you’ve proven that you’re capable of looking after yourself.

Tell your mum how much it upsets you when she won’t let you do things alone. My support pack Standing Up For Yourself will help you to get your point across.

Ask if you can go out together – prove to her that you’re more than capable of taking yourself out for the day.

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